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I wasn’t always who I am today which is someone who has a super solid, loving relationship with themself and loves the shit out of her life even though nothing changed externally – same family, same job, etc. – because everything changed internally.
I had “everything”…good career with a fat paycheck, well-rounded children, what looked like a happy marriage, a nice home, etc.
And I was miserable. Ungrateful. Resentful. Lonely. And ashamed…so ashamed because I had “everything” and thought I shouldn’t feel anything but deep, deep gratitude. And I just…didn’t.
I wanted more. More meaning, joy, fulfillment, connecting, belonging, excitement, GRATITUDE because my life was actually pretty freaking great but inside it sure didn’t feel like it.
Sure – I laughed easily and faked my way through happiness but inside I was crumbling…treading water…barely keeping it together wondering is this really all there ever is because SCREW THAT.
I spent decades – literal decades – feeling shame for wanting more and instead of taking action…I wallowed in that shame.
Why? Because I was told it was wrong to want more. We all are. It’s ingrained in our culture…we’re taught to achieve instead of how to thrive emotionally and what we have is millions of people walking around unhappy, unfulfilled, and just going through the motions.
I chose not to let that be my life anymore. Doing my own work to heal from childhood wounds helped me finally realize that wanting more is human…it’s natural and it sure as hell isn’t wrong.
In fact, going after our more-ness not only helps us, it helps those around us because we have more in our tanks to give – time, resources, energy, etc.
Everyone literally wins – our children, our partners, our co-workers, our family, our community, etc.
The best possible position to be in is to absolutely be full of gratitude because you love the shit out of yourself and your life AND give yourself the permission to pursue whatever else you desire in your life.
That’s what I strive for. It’s what my clients come to me for help with.
THAT is the work. To hold space inside to feel both grateful AND wanting more without judgment.
To drop the shoulds and shouldn’ts and give yourself the grace to create your life so that it feels as good inside as it looks from the outside – your own version of a wildly fulfilling life.
We’re not talking money or resources here though those are always nice to have. When your life feels good, it ripples out into those around you.
It gives permission and inspiration to others to explore the more-ness that’s missing from their lives because they feel you living deeply fulfilled and content and they want that for themselves and their loved ones.
Imagine a world full of people who feel deeply content and wildly fulfilled.
What becomes possible for ALL of us in our collective healing and how we treat each other?
It starts with you. It starts with each of us “doing the work” to listen to our desires and longings without judgment but instead, with curiosity and possibility and hope.
You matter just as much as anyone else and wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful. Not at all. Like I said above – we can hold space for both gratitude and wanting more.
Time for ACTION ==> What more do you need in your life? What desires and longings have you been stuffing deep down inside for far too long? What teeny tiny actions can you take today to start having the more-ness you need?
You’ve got this and I’m always here to help and encourage.
jen v. xo
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Hey there! I'm Jen V.
When I say I've got you...I'VE LEGIT GOT YOU.
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give you a swift kick in the ass and/or nudge you forward (you always decide how hard)
give you a helping hand to the other side when all you want is to bury your head in the sand
remind you of the absolute badass you are and that you've absolutely got this especially when you forget
give you encouraging words in a non-blowing smoke up your ass way and funny memes...always funny memes (you decide how inappropriate because trust my friends, I can go there)
help you learn how to celebrate the hell out of yourself (none of that self-deprecating shit no matter how funny it is) with every action - tiny or GINORMOUS - don't matter
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