I am Bridgerton steamy sex scene level OBSESSED with helping women figure out exactly why they're so checked out and lie awake at night thinking this is not the life they imagined and wondering how the hell they got here and do they need to burn it all down and start over?
Instead, I help them get clear on what a peeyourpants future means for them, get super curious and look at their lives objectively (because - hello - it's hella hard to identify what to change when we're knee deep in our emotions), decide which changes will have the biggest impact, and take intentional and thoughtful actions without having to burn down their entire world.
And because I'm a professional bossypants (actual title) and have the sense of humor of a 12-year-old boy - I'll get you there faster and with lots of inappropriate laughter while we do the deep inner work.
You stop wanting to burn it all down and instead, look forward to walking in the door at the end of a long day at work
Disappointment happens and it no longer destroys you
Instead of beating yourself up because you should feel grateful, you actually feel grateful and it feels oh so fucking good
You're able to set and keep boundaries with people in your life, like your MIL, without feeling like an asshole
Breaking the cycle and not passing along the same traumas to your children
Deeper connections with loved ones including those sisterfriends who always have your back and lovingly call you on your b.s. so you can keep on living your best life
One the outside I had a great family, nice house, and good career. I smiled easily, laughed loudly, and appeared confident.
Inside told a different story.
Inside I was heartachingly lonely, sad, unsure, lost, and believed the story that I wasn't a good, kind person. I felt unworthy, unlovable, and never enough. And oh did I have loads of evidence to support this. Thanks, shitty childhood.
I wasn't present for my husband and children. I half-assed my job. I had no friends I could call up and grab coffee + a chat. I worried about how embarrassed my family would be when no one came to my funeral.
Thousands of dollars in debt from trying to fix my brokenness in all sorts of unhealthy ways, a failing marriage, and feeling empty + alone – looking to escape every chance I could find -
Two life-altering events happened in the span of a few months.
1. I told my husband I wanted a divorce but changed my mind when I realized how alone I would be without the one person who'd always had my back. The day we told our daughter, my heart finally screamed louder than my ego – You don't actually want this.
2. My mom sent an email to my brother and I sweeping all the years of abuse under the rug and instead, apologizing for “spoiling” us to make up for our parent's “tense relationship”. This email had me questioning e. v. e. r. y. t. h. i. n. g. about my childhood.
The life I'd created for myself was gut-wrenching and I didn't want to die this way.
I had a choice. I could continue to bury my head in the sand or I could finally deal with all the baggage from a shitty childhood. I chose the latter.
I questioned everything. I put my ego on the back burner (it was fairly large) and let my heart guide the way. I set emotions aside and looked back on my life with objectivity. I paid attention to what was triggering for me and learned not to let the voices in my head be so hateful and self-loathing.
I learned how to nurture myself. I looked for evidence that I was a good, kind person who was worthy of love and friendship. And I found it because I was looking for it through a new lens.
Slowly, I started to heal. And to feel checked-in - present.
And after some time, I finally felt worthy enough for friendships and found my sisterfriends. My marriage mended. I found the silver linings from my shitty childhood. My old stories lost their death grip on my heart. I learned what made me feel whole and went after it with ruthlessness, fierceness and determination.
Healing was my job.
It took me years to do this work all by myself…it was painful and hard and sad and lonely and very nearly ended my marriage and I don't want that for you – not when I can help.
I want to save you from the pain, isolation, feeling lost, and losing decades – yes, DECADES – thinking things are supposed to be happier than they really are and what the hell is wrong with you because your life is so goddamn #blessed.
I've been there and I know the way through to the other side.
Jen has a magical way of getting right into the crevasse of an issue and lovingly helping you to crack it wide open in order for you to let it properly heal. She has an ever-so-loving presence about her and will momma bear through the unshackling process of coming home to yourself and healing from the issues that lie deep down inside of yourself.
She makes the listener feel as though we are right alongside her and her guest and even though the topics can sometimes be tough, the journey this podcast takes you on is highly fulfilling.
Thank you for showing me the mirror and allowing me to finally see and acknowledge the fear that I have been living with. This fear has been so deep that it is literally preventing me from moving forward. It is because of your warmth, kindness, and ability to “go there” with me. You held me in such a safe space that I was able to finally see myself and know that I was going to be okay. You have an incredible gift.
Jen and her myriad of guests always keep me coming back for more. I enjoy the honesty of each topic and how she seems to get right to the point but in the greatest of ways. She keeps it fun and also real down to earth in such a relatable style of communication. Thank you, Jen, for all the wonderful hours of listening that have enriched my life in so many soulful ways. I appreciate you and your amazing guests! I recommend everyone have some time with Going There with Jen!
Working with Jen has given me clarity and courage around accepting my true self and the values of connection. Any time I got off a call with her I felt refreshed and clear-headed. She always held a safe place for me to clear my mind while also asking powerful questions to help me see things from a new perspective. She helped me realize I’m never really alone.
It's all too easy to skim the surface in a podcast interview, but with her guests in each episode, Jen leads us on cathartic journies through some pretty heavy stuff. It's more than just fly on the wall convos…we're too often told is shameful but through these stories, we relate and we get empowered to name it and speak our truth out loud. This podcast does humanity a much needed service.
Jen has an acute intuition and ability to discover what's beneath the surface through the use of powerful questions and metaphors. Jen helped see that my unwanted controlling behavior was a reflection of my fear of being hurt and taken advantage of. When we explore the things we're not proud of, our deepest fears and secrets, we can feel vulnerable.
It's amazing how much you can learn about yourself through by listening to other people's healing journey.
Thank you for your vulnerability and courage!