tl;dr It’s My Time helps the accomplished woman who’s done everything “right” put herself first for perhaps the first time ever so she can discover what truly makes her feel ALIVE - joyful, grateful, connected, etc - and then live the absolute shit out of her second half because she knows life’s too damn short to live other peoples’ dreams.
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Then why do you feel a bit under- and overwhelmed with your life, unfulfilled, bored, and wondering if this is all there ever is?
Because we were raised being told we can "have it all" and we've been killing ourselves slowly ever since. I'm here to stop that shit right there in its tracks.
You're also an ambitious, accomplished woman and much like anything else in your life...you could figure this out on your own...but why?
Midlife gives us this unique perspective and opportunity to recalibrate..a time to take stock of our lives, and plan for the second half.
What do we want to accomplish still? Who will we be in our twilight years? What kind of grandparent will we be? Is there time left to do and experience all the things we imagined for ourselves when we were younger?
We worry about things like possibly dying with the best left inside of us, being lonely in our older years, looking back on life with our fair share of regrets, etc.
Also, WHY DO CHIN HAIRS HAVE TO BE A THING?!?!?!!!?!
Coaching gives you the time, space, and support to truly look at your life and see what's working and more importantly, what's not.
Challenge your fears, tackle all that's been holding you back, unbecoming all that culture, family, society, etc. has shaped you so you can become the person you know is still in there. Figure out the right fucks to give and only the right fucks.
Coaching is for:
✨The one who's accomplished so much and still wants more because achieving what you wanted when you were younger was great...but turns out, not enough
✨The one who "has it all" and still feels somewhat unhappy, stuck, overwhelmed yet unfulfilled, isolated, and sometimes invisible
✨The one who woke up this morning and didn't feel ready to face the day but did so anyway, with a smile, because that's what grown ass women do
✨The one who wonders throughout the day - is this really all there ever is?
✨The one who wonders how life can be so #blessed and soul-sucking all at the same time
✨The one who doesn't want to leave this earth with the best left inside of her
✨The one who looks across the table at her partner and doesn't quite know him anymore other than she knows she loves him deeply
I'm here to tell you that your time is NOW and I can get you there faster.
It's time to own your dreams, value your hard-won wisdom, strengths, and contributions, and seize the opportunities you have in front of you.
It's time to put yourself first for a SELFISH hot minute. You matter too.
Because life is just getting started if you let it.
Do the work. Look in the mirror and love the person starting back at you. Look forward to aging powerfully. Give the right fucks. Go after your dreams. Wake up feeling like yourself. Make decisions from the space of making sure future you is thrilled to pieces. Put yourself first.
It's your time + I get you there faster using my proven 7 step SELFISH framework.
all of this was me 6 years ago before I did my own work. I tried to run away from my life over and over which was a sucky way to live
tart with desire. In my best Lucifer voice...tell me what it is you truly desire...what possibilities exist when you give yourself permission to explore?
xplore just enough of your past + present to best understand and accept why you do and feel the way you do. How have you been getting in your own way and why?
earn from all the data we've gathered. No wonder why you do and react the way you do...
uture you is waiting for you to DECIDE and it's time. It's your time to finally put yourself first for a hot minute.
terate baby! The process of unbecoming/becoming is never a one and done and we LOVE it that way. Keeps life interesting.
elf-acceptance, compassion, kindness, love...we do this process with all the 'selfs' (except loathing) front and center because that's how we get shit done.
eal. Healing might not have been the impetus but you can't help but heal your shit as you actively + intentionally step into future you.
my not so subtle fuck you to society and especially the patriarchy
My approach is what I like to call where #personaldevelopmentmeetsgetshitdone.
Using my SELFISH framework, I wear my right-brained-meets-left-brained-art-meets-science-expert-project-manager-coach-consultant-partner-mentor-guide hat and you bring your truest version of yourself who's ready to dig deep and take action and together we roll up our sleeves and do the work in front of us with the confidence of a middle-aged mediocre white dude. IYKYK.
We treat PROJECT ME: It's My Time with the same reverence and diligence we would a complex project at work (learn more here) with loads of moving bits + pieces including important stakeholders (you) impatiently wondering when we'll be done!
We don't dick around - we go deep fast (starting with our free first call which you can book below) and we come up with a roadmap and action plans and milestones and we iterate and adjust as necessary.
Our project spans 6 months where we meet once per week (12 weekly 60-min sessions) for the first three months and then monthly check-ins for the next three (3 monthly 60-min sessions). And because I like round numbers, I throw in a bonus 60-min session to use whenever you need it for a total of 16 60-min sessions.
In between sessions, we use voxer so you always feel supported, motivated, challenged, and celebrated.
The investment is $3600 and monthly payment plans are available ($600/mo.).
To get started, find a time on my calendar (below) that works best for you. This is a free 30-minute call where we check each other out...kind of like a non-creepy first date at that bougie coffee shop you've been dying to try. I'll get the lavender latte...what'll you get?
You'll get a sense of my style, I'll get a sense of how and where I can best support you and if you're cool with it, we talk about what it will look like to work together.
There is zero sales pressure to say Yes because that's not how I roll...at all.
If you're a hell yes, I send you a gorgeous welcome packet with everything you need to know from how to schedule your sessions, finding me on voxer, and fun exercises to get you started.
We meet over zoom with unlimited voxer access between sessions so you always feel supported, motivated, challenged, and celebrated.
Much like your projects at work, we’re going to tackle this head-on with strategy, planning, learning and iterating by taking a metric shit-ton of action, and motherloving refinement including a good ‘ol fashioned pivot ala Ross Geller if that’s what’s called for.
And we’re going to have fun while we do it, dammit! I insist.
Our first three months (weekly sessions) are all about diving deep, gathering data, reflecting, planning, experimenting and iterating.
We look at your values in a way you've never done before, we plan out, in detail, what a perfectly average mediocre day looks like in your dream life, we look at what you've been tolerating in life and what's been holding you back.
Each of these exercises are steeped in planning and taking action so you literally feel forward momentum as we go along. And this is just the tip of the iceberg!
Our next three months (monthly sessions) focus on checking-in and seeing where we might need some refinements or even a pivot. These sessions make sure you stay focused and motivated and on your desired path until who you are is exactly who you want to be.
And don't forget - you have one bonus Oh Shit session that can be used whenever you need it.
I told you we’re going to treat this like a super duper important strategic project which means we’re going to work in phases - iterating, experimenting, and learning as we go along - course-correcting and pivoting if we veer off track.
(My right-brain-meets-left-brain-art-meets-science-expert-project-manager-coach-consultant-partner-mentor-guide brain was literally born for this.)
We start with the overarching goal - your Life’s Big Hairy Audacious Goal. Your LBHAG.
What will be different in your life (internally and/or externally) 6 months from now? What is the best version of yourself that you’re stepping into? What new chapters in the story of your life are you writing?
Everything else is done in support of your LBHAG including the intentional action you take, the celebrations we do, and the deep inner work I’m here to support you with.
1. We’re going to start with a big ginormous vent session to get it alllll out in the open - all the resentments, complaints, things that are unfair, disappointments, unmet expectations, hurts, etc.
I want you to rant, yell, act like a 3-yo not getting their way in the middle of a Target aisle during holiday season, get really fucking pissed and tell me alll. the. things. Nothing is off-limits, too petty; anything goes, and judgement can fuck right off. Seriously.
The messier the better at this stage. We can take 10 mins, we can take 30. Whatever you need because what we give voice to we can actually start to address for realz.
And then we’re going to take a couple of deep breaths and move on. This is when the magic starts to happen.
How? Why? Because you’ve been keeping this shit bottled up inside for far too long and it bleeds over into everything. Giving voice to it allows it to breathe and start to heal.
Magic, I tell ya!
2. From there, we move into dreaming and scheming; naming and claiming your desires.
What are your Must Have Non-negotiables and Nice to Haves as you think about you 6 months from now and beyond?
Who are you in your most You-ness? What lights you up from the inside out? What makes you peeyourpants excited about the future? What possibilities are out there just waiting for you to say YES?
Don’t know yet? Tis cool...that’s exactly why we’re here talking about it. Plus, it’s fun to dream. There’s a whole workbook dedicated to this that many clients say is worth the investment alone.
3. And then comes the not so fun but absolutely necessary bit...womp womp... (no worries, I get you through it as painlessly as possible) what’s getting in your way...cock blocking you if you will?
Because if it were so easy, you’d be living your hopes and dreams already and wouldn’t have reached out for help + support. Thankfully, my special powers include making it feel easy and pleasurable.
I’ve got your back. You’ll learn how to have your own back too.
Once we have the data from Phase 1, it’s time to start reviewing the gaps between present and future and creating a plan for how to move from point A to M complete with milestones and check-ins.
N-Z is where 80-yo you stuff comes into play so that happens down the road...you’re not there yet, lol. Let’s get you to M first!
You’ll have been taking intentional action all throughout Phases 1 and 2 but this is where the rubber meets the road.
We’ll have weekly check-ins for the next couple of months to keep you on track, hold you accountable, see how things are going, where we might need to pivot or refine, etc.
You will be supported, challenged, and celebrated the whole entire time.
We want to take all that good stuff and make sure it’s settled deep in your bones so no matter what life throws at you, you always know how to make your way back to your core of who you are and what matters most to you in this world.
We’ll meet once a month for 3 months to keep you moving towards your LBHAG.
Hey - life happens! I never want to leave you hanging which is why you get 1 60-minute bonus session to use whenever you feel you need the extra support including a swift kick in the ass if that’s what would be most helpful.
In between each of our sessions, you have voxer support for when you need funny gifs, motivation, celebration, whathaveyou.
You literally will never be left hanging.
$600 per month (or $3600 paid in full) to never not have your back again
✨ 16 1:1 opportunities (sessions) to say a ginormous FUCK YES to your second half
✨ Voxer support between sessions so you're never left hanging (I promise I'll send you the very best gifs)
✨ My proven 7 step SELFISH framework which puts your desires (not just of the orgasmic kind) front and center
✨ Expert support + guidance from someone who's not only trained + certified but has been there, done that and is on the other side
✨ So much more fun and productive than going about it alone
Getting there faster = Priceless because life is too damn short to be fucking around
This is for you if
This is not for you if
✨ You are somewhat bored + frustrated with your life and you know you should be grateful but...you just wantneed MORE
✨ You are ready to really dig deep and figure out a) what you truly want from life (not someone else's dream) and b) what's getting in your way from that today
✨ Even more importantly, you're excited to take inspired + intentional action
✨ You love getting curious, experimentation, and believe imperfect action is greater than getting it "right"
✨ You value perseverance, determination, and grittiness coupled with heaping doses of self-kindness and compassion
✨ You 're not prepared to get uncomfortable at times and have your thoughts and beliefs lovingly challenged
✨ You think feelings are something reserved for people who are too soft, too emotional, too much
✨ You feel like a victim without any power and/or agency in your life
✨ You're a Donald Trump supporter, covid denier, BLM hater, and don't wear your mask in public
✨ Get offended easily by sexual innuendos and swearing
I love you AND we're just not a good fit.
What becomes possible when...
✨You look in the mirror and love what you see because your insides finally match your outsides...the strong, confident, warrior woman you are (let's be honest...people have always seen you this way but you haven't until now)
✨Appreciate the journey that's brought you here...to this moment...because all the hard-won wisdom and lessons learned that have shaped you into the badass you are
✨Can leave the past behind. You've learned all you've needed and now future you is driving the bus
✨Believe in yourself like a mediocre middle-aged white dude and all you have to offer this world because you are just getting started. And then confidently go after those dreams and things that light you up
✨You feel extraordinarily, uniquely, and unapologetically YOU and that is more than enough
Would you travel more? Play more? Change careers? Love more? Connect more? Love yourself wholeheartedly? Say no more? Volunteer more? Be happier? More fulfilled? Start a new business? Be comfortable in your own skin? What risks would you take? What chances would you go for?
Jen has a magical way of getting right into the crevasse of an issue and lovingly helping you to crack it wide open in order for you to let it properly heal. She has an ever-so-loving presence about her and will momma bear through the unshackling process of coming home to yourself and healing from the issues that lie deep down inside of yourself.
Thank you for showing me the mirror and allowing me to finally see and acknowledge the fear that I have been living with. This fear has been so deep that it is literally preventing me from moving forward. It is because of your warmth, kindness, and ability to “go there” with me. You held me in such a safe space that I was able to finally see myself and know that I was going to be okay. You have an incredible gift.
Working with Jen has given me clarity and courage around accepting my true self and the values of connection. Any time I got off a call with her I felt refreshed and clear-headed. She always held a safe place for me to clear my mind while also asking powerful questions to help me see things from a new perspective. She helped me realize I’m never really alone.
Jen has an acute intuition and ability to discover what's beneath the surface through the use of powerful questions and metaphors. Jen helped see that my unwanted controlling behavior was a reflection of my fear of being hurt and taken advantage of. When we explore the things we're not proud of, our deepest fears and secrets, we can feel vulnerable.
Thank you for your vulnerability and courage!
If you've read my About page already you know I'm warm, funny, sarcastic, irreverent, and sometimes stick my foot in my mouth. I'm also super safe, non-judgmental, and not afraid to lovingly call you on your b.s. that's holding you back.
Think of me as your fave older sister that you can tell anything to. She'll keep your secrets, hold you to a high standard, see the potential in you and work to draw it out and she will cheer you on almost embarrassingly so. She might even sneak you some Boone's Farm or Mad Dog 20/20. (Ew.)
My job is to ask the hard, powerful questions, offer perspective, uncover your blind spots and give you space to explore and get curious. I will offer supportive tools in our sessions to help you bust through any lingering blocks that are keeping you stuck and feeling less than. Basically - I've got your back.
Yes - this will be one of the hardest things you ever do but I PROMISE you it will be oh so worth it.
I sure do! I also offer a sliding scale (kind of like the green jar theory) for those who truly need it (i.e. basic needs are being met but really could use coaching to help improve their lives including financial stability).
We can chat more about this during our free call. You'll find I truly hold a judgement-free space. I've had help in my past and love having the ability to help others.
Big mama bear hugs to you and I get it…that was me for 45 of my 50 years so I get it….OH do I get it. I also get the bone-aching loneliness that comes when we keep our deepest and darkest to ourselves. And I don't want that for you or anyone for that matter.
Being nervous is 1000% normal AND getting real and vulnerable with ourselves and others is the way through and why not practice in a super safe, non-judgmental, and completely supportive space? I've got you…promise.