self-love coaching

Loving your damn life begins with deeply accepting your inherent worthiness

The longest, most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself. Make it a good one!

feel happy and deeply fulfilled and content no matter what even when life decides to life

bring your noblest dreams to life because you are here for big things even when self-doubt tries to tug away at your confidence

love yourself unconditionally and unapologetically even when you've been the asshole in which case, of course you make amends

commit to your big, hairy, audacious goals to create the future you desire even when actions feel a bit hard or uncomfortable

feel whole even when something triggers an old wound

stop comparing yourself to what she has even when her life looks insta-worthy

improve your relationships in all of your important roles 

Self-Love Coaching for women is for those who want to

We work on all of this and so much more in my self-love coaching program. I provide the tools, resources, and guidance as you become the woman who loves her damn self no matter what else is going on in your world

Self-love is about treating yourself with the same kindness, compassion, and respect that you do others. It's recognizing your inherent worthiness by the very fact that you exist; worthiness is never something you have to earn or lose

It's less a destination and more a journey of becoming your Favorite Self; reorienting to who you want to be and how you want to show up in all your various roles

It's asking, "What would love choose?" and then taking actions that hold you in the highest regard

It's having all the selfs; self-awareness, self-kindness, self-compassion, self-friendship, self-confidence, self-worthiness, self-loyalty

It's knowing that you needs matter too and putting yourself first sometimes is the opposite of selfish

Self-love allows you to fully be the person you want to be in all your important roles - mother, partner, leader, friend, auntie, daughter, sister, change-maker, rebel-rouser

It's what allows you to feel free; yes - it's that powerful


How will working with a Self-Love Coach help me?

Simply put, working with a Self-Love Coach will get you where you want to go faster.

Imagine feeling courageous as you bring your dreams to life with bespoke support, feeling safe to do things outside your comfort zone, and building deep levels of self-trust, self-confidence, self-loyalty, and self-love as you "do the work" to bring your exciting vision to life.

I bring unbiased, non-judgmental, and fresh perspective as I guide you in creating an unshakeable relationship with yourself as you re-discover your self-worth.

I hope your story's not as dramatic as mine. But if it is, I want you to hear me - You are NOT alone.

I spent the better part of decades in self-loathing, self-abusive behaviors, self-criticism, etc.

And no one would have guessed.

Outside looking in I had a pretty great life and smiled easily. So I felt like a fraud on top of it. Fun times.

Hitting rock-bottom in 2015, I decided to try a different way to fix myself. Love.

I didn't think it'd work but what did I have to lose at that point?

What would love choose? How would love want me to feel? What would love want me to do?

It felt far from natural at first but I kept at it until one day, it became second nature and just who I am.

I am the woman who loves her damn self and has her back no matter what.

Now it's my greatest joy to help other women on their self-love journey to wholeness. Because wherever you go, there you are.

The work is absolutely worth it. I promise.

Let me be your guide as someone who has been there, done that, and has a toolkit to help you get to the other side faster.

Hi, hi! I'm Jen V.

life and self-love coach for women who are ready to love their damn selves

Come with an open mind that is ready to dive deep and get curious instead of (self) judgmental

Be open to doing things outside your comfort zone because if nothing changes, nothing changes

Get excited about experimenting and the understanding that there is no "right" way but finding YOUR way that takes into account your life, your brain, your desires, your resources, etc.

Have a strong-bias for action and ability to check perfectionism at the door because you can't think your way have to "do the work"

Be able to laugh at life's sometimes fuckery because life will absolutely life but you are more committed to "doing the work" than staying same-same

A willingness to be lovingly called on any b.s. leftover from old habits, stories, and beliefs

How to get the most out of working with a Life Coach for Self-Love

Thank you for showing me the mirror and allowing me to finally see and acknowledge the fear that I have been living with. This fear has been so deep that it is literally preventing me from moving forward. It is because of your warmth, kindness, and ability to “go there” with me. You held me in such a safe space that I was able to finally see myself and know that I was going to be okay. You have an incredible gift.


Heather K.

Lina B.

Jen has a magical way of getting right into the crevasse of an issue and lovingly helps you crack it wide open in order for you to let it properly heal. 


Working with Jen has given me clarity and courage around accepting my true self and the values of connection. Any time I got off a call with her I felt refreshed and clear-headed. She always held a safe place for me to clear my mind while also asking powerful questions to help me see things from a new perspective. She helped me realize I’m never really alone.


Alex B.

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