Hi! I'm Jen :)
My messy truth & the perfect storm
It took almost walking away from my marriage and realizing at the 11th hour that wasn't going to fix anything, in fact, only make things worse...
...and an email from my mom sweeping alllllll the years of abuse under the rug because she and my dad "spoiled" us (me & my bro) to make up for our parent's "tense" relationship.
That was the perfect storm I needed to wake TF up and figure my shit out because continually feeling broken, restless, ungrateful, resentful, bored, lonely, etc.?
That was NOT how I was going to let my story end.
The perfect storm forced me to look in the mirror and ask the question...
Who am I really and how do I want to live & feel the rest of my life?
For all intents & purposes, I had it all.
Upwardly mobile career with a nice fat paycheck, what looked to be a solid & supportive marriage, nice house, well-rounded kiddos, etc.
I was supposed to be happy & grateful. Inside I felt anything but.
Treading water, pretending to be "fine" and "having it all together" all while hiding behind a mega-watt smile and the keen ability to make everyone else laugh.
It was exhausting. And isolating. And heartaching for my husband to watch because he could only love and support me...he couldn't fix it for me.
The perfect storm presented an opportunity. I could either keep on keeping on OR I could figure my shit out.
"Having it all" except what you want most...
Because if nothing changes, nothing changes.
What came next was "doing the work" to transform my life from the inside out
Being radically honest & compassionate with myself allowed me to heal childhood traumas & my relationship with myself, mend my marriage, & feel whole for the first time in my life without burning it all down
Now it's my mission...
Helping women fall in love with themselves and their lives without burning it all down because wherever you go, there you are.
Imagine a world of people (especially women!) fully engaged in their lives, sharing their gifts with the world all while getting their own needs met too.
Talk about a ginormous middle finger to a world that profits from our pain instead of our joy & fulfillment.
Not only am I a Certified Life Coach, I've been coaching and mentoring people for literal decades through my professional work as an expert software development project manager.
I know a thing or 100 about "doing the work" and getting massive results.
It's my absolute pleasure, honor, and delight to help other women fall in love with themselves and their lives without having to burn it all down.
If you feel like a hot, hot mess inside and NO ONE would guess...
...if life feels like you're perpetually on the hamster wheel with no end in sight
If you're tired of wearing all the masks and facades just to get by...
You and I both that's no way to live...not for you.
Interested in having me on your podcast or speaking to your audience? You can find my bio + photos here.
I help "have it all" women live lives that feel as good as they look
My process is powerful & life-changing
I live in the Twin Cities (Minneapolis/St. Paul), MN with my husband and last kiddo at home (we'll be empty nesters in less than a year 😭) and our 2 drooly newfoundlands.
Life's not complete until you've stepped in a newf drool pile.
At least, that's what we tell ourselves!
I thrive on new experiences, anything that gets my adrenaline pumpin', and love nothing more - except my family - than a super dry red wine 🍷.
I "did the work" and healed my ish and am now living MY version of a life well lived & loved.
I will never be done growing + learning and my personal mission is keeping 80-yo future me hella proud because hoo-boy can she be a feisty, spicy one!
You could say I'm slightly obsessed when it comes to women loving the shit out of their lives
Thank you for showing me the mirror and allowing me to finally see and acknowledge the fear that I have been living with. This fear has been so deep that it is literally preventing me from moving forward. It is because of your warmth, kindness, and ability to “go there” with me. You held me in such a safe space that I was able to finally see myself and know that I was going to be okay. You have an incredible gift.
We unapologetically own our shit & do the work to heal.
We are our own heroes.
Time is a luxurious privilege we don’t take for granted.
We live in the both/and and hold space for nuances and complexities.
We own our privilege.
We have a strong bias for action because it’s in the action that we learn & grow
Ego doesn’t drive the bus…at least not all of the time.
We view life as a grand adventure and stay in relentless pursuit of a life well lived and loved.
Other random tidbits about me
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