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Tell me if this hits a little too close to home?
You mostly have your shit together and life looks pretty fanfrickingtastic on paper - you have a nice family, fun family vacations, good career, nice home + neighborhood etc. but inside you're feeling bored, unsatisfied, and wondering if this is all there ever is because SCREW THAT. Inner voice: Dammit, Jen, you should be more grateful.
You know deep in your heart that you need more from life than “checking the boxes” but you're not sure what that more is or how to go about it and get out of your own way. Inner voice: FFS, Jen, why can't you just be happy with what you have?
You want to say, "f*ck it" to the shoulds but while that sounds nice in theory...is actually harder to do in reality and damn...you're shoulding all over yourself. Inner voice: WTF, can't you get it together, Jen?!?
It keeps you up at night...wondering if you might possibly die with the best parts left inside and that scares the beejeebus out of you. Inner voice: Is this legit the way I'm going to still feel when I die?
You know you can figure "this" out because you do hard things all the time but you're not sure where to start OR if you're ready to change your comfortable ways. Inner voice: What's so wrong with you that you can't figure this "life" thing out, Jen?
You can't help but think life's not bad…it’s just not super great in a way that lights you up, turns you on, feeds your soul. Inner voice: Again - why can't I just be grateful? What is wrong with me????
On top of it? You kind of feeling guilty for feeling this way and wanting "more"...guilty for not being satisfied or happy. Inner voice: Oy!
✨ Presenting your big proposal and killer ideas for a VIP client, already knowing you're going to knock it out of the park. (Deep self-belief)
✨ Feeling beyond excited to grow old with your partner. They're no longer the sole provider of your happiness because you've got that shit covered. (Having your own back)
✨ Being the parent you would have loved when you were growing up...hell...even now!. You're nurturing, patient, up for almost anything, and create a safe environment for the kiddos to come into their own. Plus? You're pretty cool and they actually enjoy spending time with you! (Breaking the cycle)
✨ Passing by a mirror and realizing you no longer see a stranger staring back but a best friend - a strong, independent woman who has her own back and DAMN does she look fine! (Self-love FTW)
✨ Mostly having your shit together AND able to let your guard down so you can deeply connect with others without feeling like a fraud every time you walk into a room. (Worthiness, belonging + connection)
✨Not spending precious energy secretly wanting to burn it all down and run away and instead, spend that energy living your F*CK YEAH life! ('nough said)
imagine what it would feel like
I want this!
Working with Jen has given me clarity and courage around accepting my true self and the values of connection. Any time I got off a call with her I felt refreshed and clear-headed. She always held a safe place for me to clear my mind while also asking powerful questions to help me see things from a new perspective. She helped me realize I’m never really alone.
live a f*ck yeah life
No more sacrificing your happiness + fulfillment for others.
No more letting your inner mean girl get the best of you with her bullying ways.
No more saying yes when you really mean HELL NO.
No more bending over backwards trying to please others.
No more thinking someday, happiness is going to automagically appear.
No more putting yourself low(est?) on your priority list.
No more belittling yourself for every little mistake or mis-step you make.
No more caring how others perceive you. You know your heart and as long as you're not being the asshole - you're good.
A metric ton of this
Relationships that are loving, kind, healthy, and hella strong.
Looking in the mirror and seeing a best friend instead of a stranger.
Knowing just how damn worthy and lovable you are - celebrating yourself with immense gratitude for creating a life full of happiness, fulfillment, and deep contentment.
A loving, respectful relationship with your inner mean girl.
Having all the important selfs - compassion, kindness, respect, worthiness, love.
Going to bed each night thinking "I can't wait to do that again tomorrow.".
Confidence to go after your big dreams whether it's going back to school, putting yourself in the dating pool, starting a non-profit, or retiring to the mountains of Ecuador like my mom did.
In 2015, I found myself feeling empty, stuck, alone, restless, bored, etc. and on top of it, shame and guilt because my life was actually really really good in so many ways but I just wasn't feeling it.
Instead, I was bitter, angry, resentful, and full of why me-ness. A real joy to be around.
My solution was to upend my life and walk away from the one person who'd always had my back, who'd always loved me no matter what, who'd always supported my wild + adventurous self - my husband.
I thankfully came to my senses at literally the 11th hour and today we're happily married, I love my life, and am deeply content. I no longer spend precious mental energy thinking about running away. I can't even describe to you how huge this is.
I'm not going to lie...it took some work to get here but I found a way that infuses joy and pleasure from the get-go and I want to show you that different way.
Because of this, I am absolutely passionate about helping other women - like me - live a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.
Let's find out what "wanting more" specifically looks like and means for you and then create a plan to get you there as fast as possible because who's got time for futzing around?!?!?
Hi, I'm Jen
I'm done feeling guilty for wanting more
Thank you for showing me the mirror and allowing me to finally see and acknowledge the fear that I have been living with. This fear has been so deep that it is literally preventing me from moving forward. It is because of your warmth, kindness, and ability to “go there” with me. You held me in such a safe space that I was able to finally see myself and know that I was going to be okay. You have an incredible gift.
We start by creating a super detailed vision of your wisest, #1 mentor - your future self. She only wants the best for you - off-the-charts levels of happiness, fulfillment, and deep contentment - and will guide you in decision making and action taking that benefit both current and future you,
We next create a loving relationship with yourself - that of a best friend - one that is full of self-compassion, kindness, worthiness and love. Why? Because it’s the ONLY way lasting change is possible.
While we create a vision of future you and work on radical self-acceptance, compassion, grace, and kindness (aka love), we also take time to identify the gaps, create plans that have you taking intentional action that brings that inspired vision of you to life so that current meets future and future remains feeling happy, whole, deeply content, and loving her life well into her twilight years.
Using my expert project management skills I guide you through the entire process - from high-level strategy to just enough planning to a metric-ton of inspired action and reflection so we can course-correct and adjust as necessary. I’m right there by your side.
this is exactly what I want. I'm in.
We're a good fit if you...
✨ Are restless, bored + frustrated with your life and you know you should be grateful but...you just wantneed MORE
✨ Are ready to really dig deep and figure out a) what you truly want from life (i.e. not someone else's dream) and b) what's getting in your way from that today
✨ Feel excited to take inspired + intentional action
✨ Love getting curious, experimenting, and believe imperfect action is greater than getting it "right"
✨ Value perseverance, determination, and grittiness coupled with heaping doses of self-kindness and compassion
✨ Have a good sense of humor and don't get offended easily (I have the sense of humor of a 12-yo boy)
let's work together
This is Me!
Jen has a magical way of getting right into the crevasse of an issue and lovingly helping you to crack it wide open in order for you to let it properly heal. She has an ever-so-loving presence about her and will momma bear through the unshackling process of coming home to yourself and healing from the issues that lie deep down inside of yourself.
✨ 16 sessions to say a giant hell yes to your F*CK YEAH life; 12 weekly sessions months 1-3 to roll up our sleeves, 3 monthly check-ins months 4-6, and one OH SHIT to use whenever you need
✨ Unlimited voxer support between sessions so you're never left hanging
✨ Exercises that are actually fun to do because I don't know any other way to make lasting changes stick
✨ Random gifts sprinkled throughout our time together because you're always top of mind on how I can help you move forward as quickly as possible
what I know is true
Your life can feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. This starts with getting super clear on what you really want so you can create plans, sidestep roadblocks, and take inspired action to move you closer and closer to that life.
You can have super strong faith in yourself. You know deep in your bones that you have the strength, resilience, and chutzpah to navigate life’s ups and downs all while making sure you’re getting your most important needs met so you stay deeply content and fulfilled.
You can go to sleep each night knowing you poured your heart and soul into living and loving your life. You have so much to give the world if only you weren’t so damn exhausted from carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. The good news is that there's a choice for a better way of living.
You know growth comes from stepping outside your comfort zone and you’ve done that time and time again in your professional life. Now it’s time to do it in your personal life and I’m here to guide you so you're not left on your own thinking…where do I even start?
Life’s good but it can feel GREAT when you ensure that the energy you put out helps you feel fulfilled, empowered, and like you are finally doing things for YOU.
Why? Because we work smart + fast.
The process is never rushed but we also don’t sit around and stew in the muck because that’s not where progress and momentum happens.
It happens when we take intentional action from a place of curiosity, exploration, and excitement.
If you are all-in, hungry to do the work, ready to make the investment of time + money because your happiness, fulfillment, meaning, satisfaction, and deep contentment are no longer negotiable, I invite you to a complimentary call to talk next steps.
In our call we'll dig in deep and talk about exactly how we're going to get you living your F*CK YEAH life.
This is best for the 40+ woman who is a go-getter, action-taker, magic-maker, get-shit-doner who "has it all" but goes to bed each night feeling kind of stuck, bored, unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and wondering if this is all there ever is.
She knows she is meant for more and is DONE feeling guilty about it and is instead, ready to take the bull by the horns and ride that sucker until she's living a live that lights her up, turns her on, and has her going to bed each night thinking, "I can't wait to do that again tomorrow.".
She might not be sure what that "more" is but that's exactly why this is the right time, right package.
She's done feeling like time is slipping by and she's no going to live her remaining decades thinking, "Is this really all there ever is?!" and doing the same old same old routine.
My brilliantly perfect client is a women who knows her worth and sees glimmers of who she wants to be but isn't sure how to get there. That's where I come in and that's when the magic-making begins.
Is this you? Let's hop on a call and discuss!
If you've read my About page already you know I'm warm, funny, sarcastic, irreverent, and sometimes stick my foot in my mouth. I'm also super safe, non-judgmental, and not afraid to lovingly call you on your b.s. that's holding you back.
Think of me as your fave older sister that you can tell anything to. She'll keep your secrets, hold you to a high standard, see the potential in you and work to draw it out and she will cheer you on almost embarrassingly so. She might even sneak you some Boone's Farm or Mad Dog 20/20. (Ew.)
My job is to ask the hard, powerful questions, offer perspective, uncover your blind spots and give you space to explore and get curious. I will offer supportive tools in our sessions to help you bust through any lingering blocks that are keeping you stuck and feeling less than. Basically - I've got your back.
Big mama bear hugs to you and I get it…that was me for 45 of my 50 years so I get it….OH do I get it. I also get the bone-aching loneliness that comes when we keep our deepest and darkest to ourselves. And I don't want that for you or anyone for that matter.
Being nervous is 1000% normal AND getting real and vulnerable with ourselves and others is the way through and why not practice in a super safe, non-judgmental, and completely supportive space? I've got you…promise.
If you're anything like I was - I was spending the money anyway trying to escape my life. Now I don't have a life I want to escape from.
All the things you're doing to fill the holes you feel inside? Temporary at best. It feels good in the moment and then fades.
What I'm talking about is lasting transformation that impacts the remaining entirety of your life. How do you put a price tag on that?
I'm not going to guilt or shame you into coaching but I want you to think...how much is living and loving your life worth? How much is NOT living and loving your life costing you?
That's priceless to me. If you are a resourced woman (time, money, etc.) I invite you to at least have a quick convo with me to see if it's a good time and right fit or schedule a 90-min intensive to check it out first before you commit to a longer coaching engagement.
I sure do! I also offer a sliding scale (kind of like the green jar theory) for those who truly need it (i.e. basic needs are being met but really could use coaching to help improve their lives including financial stability).
We can chat more about this during our free call. You'll find I truly hold a judgement-free space. I've had help in my past and love having the ability to help others.
I am so glad you asked!
You do a happy dance, I do a happy dance and then I send an excited email explaining that a contract and invoice will be coming in separate emails.
Once you pay (in full or spread over 6 monthly payments) and sign the contract, I send a welcome packet that has the link to book your sessions, expectations for both of us, how to connect between sessions, etc.
I also give you your first exercise which is to start dreaming about your future self. Start with Desire is the first S in my SELFISH framework so we hit the ground running by creating a delightful vision of your future self.
Love, there is no way to be "bad" at this. All I ask is that you come with a commitment to remain curious and the willingness to grow. And when you slip into old ways, I'm here to catch you and bring you back.
I can hear your tender heart...a heart who has had to be SO STRONG for everyone and everything else. From my tender heart to yours, big squishy boob hugs.
Come as you are. That is more than good enough. Be willing to take imperfect action.
Trust yourself enough to know that you've so got this. I'll hold the belief if/when you falter.