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I'm Jen Vertanen - Mentor & Life Coach for unhappy-ish midlife women who are ready to take action to be their unapologetic, unstoppable, unfuckwithable selves (or as I like to say, favorite selves) and answer "What's next?" because what doesn’t become possible for you?

Stop asking if this is all there ever is and start being the woman who goes after what she truly wantsneeds so she can love the shit out of the rest of her life.

Future Self

A Fulfilling Life


Take the free quiz & discover your #1 mentor - your 80-yo future self

Figure Your Shit Out

Future self work is my jam. It’s my go-to for myself when I’m working through hard shit and it’s where I start each of my clients by creating a super detailed vision of their wisest, coolest, badassest 80-yo selves.

Why? Because it helps us make better choices and take action NOW instead of wallowing around in indecision, overwhelm, perfectionism, and yes – people-pleasing.

Future self work helps us set boundaries, go after the “more” we wantneed in our life (more joy, contentment, satisfaction, fulfillment, impact, etc.), and put our needs first sometimes so that we can be our best selves for ourselves and others.

The First Step Is To Create A Super Detailed Vision Of Who Your Future Self Is

I’ve shared this here and here but the gist of it is…get super specific and imagine a day in the life of your 80-yo future self.

✨ What is she doing?

👵🏼 Who is she doing it with?

✨ Where does she live?

👵🏼 What is her home life?

✨ What makes her laugh like a little schoolgirl?

👵🏼 What gives her holy rage?

✨ How does she feel physically?

ACTION ==> Go much more in-depth with this exercise by taking my free, slightly NSWF quiz where you’ll get a PDF with prompts and activities – the exact ones I used to turn my inner 80-yo self into my #1 mentor.

Breathe life into this version of future you. Make it such that she is NOT messing around when it comes to her happiness, fulfillment, and deep contentment.

This Is Way More Than A Fantasy – We Are Able To Create What We Believe Possible

You can become that amazing woman you met in your vision. In fact, you are becoming her. ~ Tara Mohr

If you want to turn this vision into your wisest mentor, you need to spend time creating a loving, kind, respectful relationship with her.

Keep her in mind as you go about your day-to-day activities.

Make it a habit to check in with her daily and ask, “Hey – how we doing today? Anything I need to course-correct or adjust or we good?!?”.

Being in relationship with her and taking action NOW is what’s going to bring the vision of her closer and closer to your current life so BOTH of you are in a win/win situation.

But…But…What About All Of Life’s Uncertainties?

Yup – they exist. No – you cannot predict the future and shitty things WILL happen because that’s life.

So knowing you can’t control the future…what you CAN control is the intention and feeling you have inside as you go about your day-to-day life.

Choose to live from a place of hope and possiblity and knowing you’ll have your back always, especially when the shitty things happen because again – they will happen.

Make the choices that are within your control and do your damnedest to love the everliving hell out of yourself and your life.

Imagine Your Future Self to Help Make Better Choices

Download this FREE non-woo guided visualization and workbook to help you be well on your way to becoming your favorite self and answering "who the hell even am I?" by tapping into the wisdom of your best 80-yo future self who is NOT messing around when it comes to her happiness & fulfillment

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