Here's some things people have asked before working with me

If you've read my About page already you know I'm warm, funny, sarcastic, irreverent, and sometimes stick my foot in my mouth. I'm also super safe, non-judgmental, and not afraid to lovingly call you on your b.s. that's holding you back.

Think of me as your fave older sister that you can tell anything to. She'll keep your secrets, hold you to a high standard, see the potential in you and work to draw it out and she will cheer you on almost embarrassingly so. She might even sneak you some Boone's Farm or Mad Dog 20/20. (Ew.)

My job is to ask the hard, powerful questions, offer perspective, uncover your blind spots and give you space to explore and get curious. I will offer supportive tools in our sessions to help you bust through any lingering blocks that are keeping you stuck and feeling less than. Basically - I've got your back.

Big mama bear hugs to you and I get it…that was me for 45 of my 52 years so I get it….OH do I get it. I also get the bone-aching loneliness that comes when we keep our deepest and darkest to ourselves. And I don't want that for you or anyone for that matter.

Being nervous is 1000% normal AND getting real and vulnerable with ourselves and others is the way through and why not practice in a super safe, non-judgmental, and completely supportive space? I've got you…promise.

If you're anything like I was - I was spending the money anyway trying to escape my life. Now I don't have a life I want to escape from.

All the things you're doing to fill the holes you feel inside? Temporary at best. It feels good in the moment and then fades.

What I'm talking about is lasting transformation that impacts the remaining entirety of your life. How do you put a price tag on that?

I'm not going to guilt or shame you into coaching but I want you to think...how much is living and loving your life worth? How much is NOT living and loving your life costing you?

That's priceless to me. If you are a resourced woman (time, money, etc.) I invite you to at least have a quick convo with me to see if it's a good time and right fit or schedule a 90-min intensive to check it out first before you commit to a longer coaching engagement.

I sure do! I also offer a sliding scale (kind of like the green jar theory) for those who truly need it (i.e. basic needs are being met but really could use coaching to help improve their lives including financial stability).

We can chat more about this during our free call. You'll find I truly hold a judgement-free space. I've had help in my past and love having the ability to help others.

I am so glad you asked!

You do a happy dance, I do a happy dance and then I send an excited email explaining that a contract and invoice will be coming in separate emails.

Once you pay (in full or spread over monthly payments) and sign the contract, I send a welcome packet that has the link to book your sessions, expectations for both of us, how to connect between sessions, etc.

I also give you your first exercise which is to start dreaming about your future self. Start with Desire is the first S in my SELFISH framework so we hit the ground running by creating a delightful vision of your future self and build from there.

Tell them. Share with them why this is so important to you and why now is the right time.

"I want to be the best possible version of myself for you, the kiddos, and myself. I want to wake up in the morning excited to do it all over again. I want to feel energized, vibrant, ALIVE! and that means spending time just for me and NOT feeling selfish or guilty about it.

I know you love and support me and want the best for me too and this is it."

Let your heart do the talking here. Be open, vulnerable, honest, and kind. 

You can't control the other person(s) - you can only represent yourself and your needs.

Cool cool!

Send an email to jen@jenvertanen.com or better yet, let's hop on a quick zoom and hash it out!

I feel like it's time for a little tough love.

It's not good, bad, right, or wrong if this is your question so let's put those self-judgy pants away.

BUT.

If you've been reading my site and following me on insta and your heart keeps coming back to this work AND you have this question?

That tells me all I need to know. Your life if full but is it FULL of all the things that make you YOU? That make you come alive? That provide you joy and fulfillment, and excitement, and enthusiasm?

Life is in the 50/50 - it's not always bad and it's not always toe-curling, mind-numbingly good. But having your own back? Betting on yourself time and again? Getting your needs met so you can be who you wantneed to be for yourself and others?

That shit is priceless. The sooner you start, the happier you'll be.

If you feel like you don't have the time, that's your indication that NOW is the absolute best time to put yourself first - at least for a while so you can figure some things out.